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How do you characterize the woman who won’t allow you to be a father?
Erin Pizzey writes in her book WORKING WITH VIOLENT WOMEN,
| “When, however, one party to the divorce is an emotional terrorist, then both the confrontational divorce procedure and the resultant open-ended divorce settlement provide infinite opportunity for the courts, lawyers, and the entire battery of psychologists called in for evaluations, to be used a the terrorist’s weapons. In these cases, the court and the divorce procedure provide no boundaries for the terrorist; instead they allow the terrorist to continue to behave boundlessly.” |
| “To limit the terrorist’s feelings of omnipotence, there are many effective measures. The guiding principle, as in the handling of political terrorists, must be ‘There is no negotiating with terrorists.’ Endless telephone calls, conversations, confrontation, trial ‘get-back-togethers,’ correspondence, visitations, gestures of appeasement, and efforts to placate the terrorist’s demands, all serve to reinforce the terrorist’s belief that she is accomplishing something. Only determined resolution in the face of terrorism shows the terrorist that her power is limited.” |
I find that the information and insights offered by Dr. Tara J. Palmatier incredibly important and helpful to all going through high-conflict divorce and child custody situations. Dr. Palmatier’s “style” is a no-nonsense approach which pulls no punches. Her post from May 17, 2011 not only exemplifies what is wrong with the high-conflict, oftentimes personality disordered parent – but also what is critically wrong with the broken Family Court System that allows women like those described in the “Golden Uterus” article to use the court system as their personal playground and weapon of choice against the targeted father.
| Are you frustrated with your wife or ex-wife’s attitude of “I AM THE MOTHER; YOU ARE IRRELEVANT” when it comes to raising your shared children? Does she have an over-inflated sense of self because she’s a mother? Does she believe the mere act of giving birth entitles her to special privileges and gives her absolute, unilateral power over you and the children? If so, your wife/ex-wife/mother of your children may be a golden uterus (GU) and suffer from golden uterus complex (GUC). |
