A Terroristic Divorce

Colin,

I know you are honestly upset by everything that is going on. Please control your anger and your temper, you are saying things and doing things that you will be embarassed about later. Your mother’s divorce doesn’t have to destroy the entire family – though she seems determined to do as much damage as she can.

You sincerely owe Grandma Joan a heartfelt apology for your statements to her and the disrespect you showed to her. This should happen face-to-face and soon. You knew she was in the house yesterday and you made no attempt to walk around to say hello. She was crying yesterday when all she could think of was if that was going to be her last memory of you shouting angrily at her through a window.

The divorce is not something anyone is enjoying, least of all our family – the four of us. You have implied that you have known all along that your mom was planning this. For your mother to burden you with keeping the secret for months is horribly unfair to you and totally inappropriate. She knows that, she was told that she shared too much with you when we were in marriage counseling. Bear in mind that it took the rest of us quite by surprise and we haven’t had the time to prepare as your mother has done.

The divorce is strictly a matter which is between your mother and myself. Her involvement of you directly and indirectly is so horribly unfair to you. No one likes to hear they have been used or lied to. She has put you in a position where you have to lie to me, and maintain secrets. I know it is easier to stay away and protect the lies and secrets by being angry and staying away. I understand what you are going through. I sincerely understand your situation. I’m so sorry your mom has put you in this position.

Last night when I came back from riding a bike while juggling footballs and basketballs, I heard from Aunt Joanne about your calls. Again, Colin show a little respect. Just as I demonstrated respect for Aunt Barb and the Weideman’s and Brassell’s. There was no battle to be fought yesterday – it was delivery on a contract not a negotiation. My disappointment at not seeing Brennan had me dig my heels in and follow the letter of the agreement. While I am not very inclined to do any favors for your mother after all she has done to attack and destroy the family this year, I’ll always be here for you and your brother.

The Football and Basketball. I asked you to put them back in the garage was because yesterday was not about your ‘stuff’. It was not about you getting your things from the house. It was not about Brennan getting his things from the house. Your mother used the excuse that she needed to get in the house to get her things when she went to the police in August and raided the house. She completely ignored a reasonable agreement arranged with our lawyers regarding how that would happen and decided to create drama. The only items taken from the house that night were yours and Brennan’s. She is attempting to make it appear that I am divorcing you and your brother, when she is divorcing me. This is all her doing. So, on an occasion where she is removing her items from the house, I requested you not take anything.

When we talked as you packed for school, I told you to talk to me directly and I’ll tell you the truth about whatever you want to know. That offer still stands. Only one rule – show a little respect.

I miss both you and Brennan more than you will ever know or understand. I hope and pray that you will come around sometime soon and we can talk all of this out.

Two unidentified officers
In accordance with to Agreed Order of September 6, 2007, Sonya picked up furniture and belongings listed but wanted more.  She wanted inside the home.  The Agreed Order grants me exclusive use and occupancy of the house. 
 
When police respond to her call, I explain that the day is about the delivery of the items.  It is not about negotiation.  She had received everything in accordance with the agreement.   Additionally I point out that as I have exclusive and occupancy of the home, she has no right to enter and is not welcome. 

Earlier that week I had heard that she was planning to take far more than what was listed, she was disappointed because the items were already outside the home when she arrived and her team had no reason to enter the house or attempt to take additional items.

Joanne it’s Colin
I was just wondering if you guys have any plans of making him give me back my stuff
I need this stuff for school
This stuff I own
And you know what when he goes to jail for all these things that he’s doing and everybody comes calling us and crying to us that we put him in jail
You know what
He deserves it
I don’t understand why nobody’s making him give my stuff back to me
I gotta go to school
I need this stuff
It’s stuff that he doesn’t need
And he wouldn’t let me have a football today
A football
What is Terance going to do with a football
And please ask yourself that
When I started leaving with the football today he told me I was stealing the football
And I own the football
I don’t know what it takes
I don’t know why you guys aren’t making him give at least my stuff back
Johnny knows where it is too
And yet nobody will give me my stuff back
It’s despicable
Absolutely unbeleivable
If Johnny knows where it is I’m assuming John knows where it is
And nobody ever
I never heard anything about anyone coming down on John for following me into an empty parking lot and verbally harassing me
You guys
This is unbeleivable
I’ve lost a lot of respect for the Healy family
I cannot believe that you guys would let this happen
I cannot believe it
Stealing
Brennan doesn’t have a desk to do homework on now because he won’t give up Brennan’s desk.
We’re not allowed to take our bicycles
I’m not allowed to have a football a football
I suppose he’s gonna go bike riding on eahc one of our bicycles and play football this weekend
Gimme a break
Somebody in that family needs to straighten him out
I begged you guys time and time again
And he’s gonna make it worse on himself
He’s already spent time in whatever that looney bin was
He’s gonna continue to make it worse on himself
And you guys can straighten him out and help him instead of crying to us when it does happen

When are you going to wake up
You guys are all going to end up burning in hell for this
For making this go on
You guys need to wake up
Wake up

[Sonya screaming in window at Joan Healy, 74, and Terance]
Joanne, Joanne
You are supporting a man that won’t give me a football now
He won’t turn over a football
[Sonya shouting and banging with all her might on the window]
Mom, Mom, stop
(Sonya, “Fuck You.”)
You’re gonna fucking go to hell.

Sonya has Colin so wrapped up in HER divorce he is unable to think properly. He lashes out at everyone and attempts to pick fights with his father.

The only way Colin has had which allows him to deal with the separation from his father is anger. It was clearly evident on October 20, 2007 when Sonya attempted to have Colin remove his items on the day she was to remove her own.

Colin has never been prevented from access to the house, or picking up his belongings. However, as the event was court ordered and about the divorce. I drew a line and wasn’t going to allow the children to feel as if they were being divorced from their father.

The Custody Master who drafted the agreement seemed to think it appropriate – and she was supposed to be acting in Brennan’s best interests. 

Sara Goren, Malpractice, Incompetence, or Stupid?

• How could Sara Goren, the Custody Master, permit such an agreement when it was clearly not in the child’s best interests?  Experience and human nature would clearly indicate that she failed in her responsibility to look after the child’s best interests.  There is no way she didn’t know it would lead to the end of their relationship.  She also knew it would take a long time to get it before a judge if the agreement was signed.  By the time it goes before a judge, the relationship will be so over that when the child tells the judge that his father was upset on the phone one time, the father will be denied any access to him at all.  Or maybe he’ll win that one last week before the child turns 18 and can make the call himself.  Too Late – the relationship is destroyed. I don’t imagine anyone would question why I would like to see this agreement changed.  But not just for ME, for Brennan. It is a bad agreement.  And it should never be his fault.  And this document is not about about including his father and mother.  It is about excluding his father.  And it’s not his mother’s fault at all. BULLSHIT!

Taking the advise of counselors, I did give Brennan ‘space’ in the summer/fall of 2007. That ‘space’ was interpreted as me ignoring my son by the Custody Master, Sara Goren. When I pointed out that had I arrived at the barn in Quakertown where Brennan was staying the police would have been called, not for cause, but simply to create the appearance of something wrong.  Miss Goren chastised that claim dismissing it because ‘You are his father, why would they call the police on his father’.  Brennan himself confirmed that oh yes, the police would have been called immediately – but never offered why. It was of no relevance that while I was allowing him the space, I was also filing the paperwork to initiate the custody process because he suddenly was having no contact with me at all – and without explanation.  My wife was not agreeing to any access to my son in any mediation or meeting without explanation of reason or cause.

• Miss Goren went into a detailed rebuke of my absence from Brennan’s soccer games.  She went further into instruction of how I could use the North Penn High School web site to find out when and where he was playing soccer and go and attend his soccer games.  She was not aware that the District Attorney’s Office had just given a presentation at Montgomery County Community College on internet safety which clearly indicated this was a method by which child molesters were finding their targets.  It was also of little necessity to indicate that my son did not play for the high school.  It was apparently not even a relevant point.  Needless to say, my wife and her attorney didn’t correct Miss Goren’s flawed assumption.  

Perhaps October 27, 2007 was Sara Goren’s first day on the job dealing with families in crisis.  She appears to have an incredibly naive view of divorce, human nature and the family dynamic when going through a divorce.  She is definitely not qualified to look after the best interests of the child.  She seems to look after the simple wants and needs of the mother.

LIES LIES LIES LIES LIES LIES LIES LIES LIES LIES

Supposedly on March 25, 2008, Sara Goren had a family emergency and had to cancel her appointment.  After waiting since December 26, 2007 for the  conference, I requested it be scheduled with the soonest possible time – even if it meant going to another Custody Master.  

• My request wasn’t granted.  It seems Angst & Angst contacted the court admin and requested it be held until Sara had another available time.  It was schedule for May 19 – 2 months later… and approaching a year since I had seen my son.
• It turns out that Sara kept her other appointments that day – only my conference was dropped from her schedule.
• On May 19, 2008, Sara Goren made the preposterous suggestion that I take a few weeks to think about if I wanted to go to court with this.  WHAT?  After waiting close to a year to have any time with my son.  Wait 3 weeks?  Is she out of her mind?  Or is she trying to make sure that the hearing doesnt happen before they try to abduct Brennan out of the country.  She waited anyway to submit her report.  
• Her report was fraud.  Not one item I mentioned that day made her report.  NOT ONE.  

In October 2008, when I asked her about her grossly inaccurate and incomplete report, she was confused.  She also had absolutely no recollection of the family emergency.    Because there obviously wasn’t one.  Her fake family emergency obviously came before my real family emergency. 

As I write this, it is a year later and the court still has not had the hearing I requested.  And the judge apparently has no intention of ever hearing the facts on the petition.    Best Interests of the Child??? Not in this judge’s courtroom.

• I can not state it any more clearly, than this.  I believe Sara Goren is corrupt.  She is a fraud.  She has damaged my son directly with her corrupt actions.  Her actions have hurt my entire family.  

• DO NO TRUST HER WITH YOUR FAMILY.  
• I REGRET THINKING SHE COULD BE TRUSTED TO BE A PROFESSIONAL.  
• SHE PLACED ALL RESPONSIBILITY ON THE CHILD.  
• DECISIONS PLACED ON A CHILD WHO HAS NOT BEEN PERMITTED TO SPEAK TO HIS FATHER.
• THE WOMAN IS A MONSTER.

Angst & Angst send a letter to your lawyer requesting a continuance.

They phrase it so that if your lawyer does not respond you accept.

They FAX it to your lawyers office.

BUT, LOL, THEY KNOW YOUR LAWYER RESIGNED WEEKS AGO.